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That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you've understood all your life, but in a new way. -- Doris Lessing

It must be remembered that the purpose of education is not to fill the minds of students with facts... it is to teach them to think, if that is possible, and always to think for themselves. -- Robert Hutchins

keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. -- Mark Twain

“Love is beyond actions. Love is beyond reactions.”

Psychologist Robert Sternberg attempted to explain love in his triangular theory of love. The theory is applicable for interpersonal relationships. It categorizes love using three scales: 1) intimacy, 2) passion, and 3) commitment. Basically, variances in the three scales produce different types of love. It is only when all three are present that a pure form of love, known as “consummate love”, can develop. Consummate love is the ultimate form of love an individual can desire.

A more applicable description of love to the style of love I am writing about in this article is explained by Susan Hendrick and Clyde Hendrick in their love attitude scale:

  1. Eros love is based on physical appearance. It describes superficial love.
  2. Ludus love is a game based on conquest. Pick-up artists (PUAs) often experience this type of love.
  3. Storge love is gradually built from similarities and friendship. The transition from friendship to love is often unclear.
  4. Pragma love is more rational than other type of love as it is based on practicality. An extreme form of Pragma love is prostitution where financial gains rationalize attachment.
  5. Mania love is very possessive and unstable. Strong feelings of insecurity, neediness, and jealously are experienced.
  6. Agape love is selfless, unconditional, and often spiritual.

Agape love most accurately describes the type of love we wish to have towards family and friends. We want to be able to unconditionally love those with whom we want to effectively communicate; not just when these people do something nice for us or when we are in a good mood. Agape love does not change when the mood or circumstances change. Agape love remains even when the person you have agape love towards does something mean to you. It is unconditional and withstanding – almost divine.

We want to – at minimum – unconditionally love our family as they are our own blood. You are apart of each family member. When you hate others, you are really hating yourself. It is our goal in this article to develop an agape form of love.